This entry is part of my recent application to an internship that required two documentary journalism pieces and one personal story. This is the personal story. I've held off posting for so long now because I knew I would first need to write about this experience before I wrote about anything else and I just couldn't bring myself to do it. It's not that I couldn't, but rather that I didn't want to. I didn't know what I would say. The internship application gave me the incentive I needed to get it all on paper.
On April 22, 2011, my girlfriend and I were robbed at gunpoint. I’m not talking about some trivial street mugging where the guy motions to the revolver stuck half-way between his navel and the inside of his pants, says, “give me all your money,” and then runs down the nearest dark alley with your wad of bills stuffed deep in his pocket. That almost seems too Hollywood to even be true.
My girlfriend Gabby and I had been traveling for the last four months, slowly making our way down through Latin America, and had just arrived in Ecuador. It was our first full day in the country, having crossed the border the previous night from a bridge in rural Colombia. The border crossing was scary enough, but we felt relieved to arrive in Ecuador after already being robbed at knife-point in broad daylight in Bogota just a week before. By comparison, Colombia seems like the big brother who dropped out of high school and can’t stay out of trouble—the narco-trafficking, the civil conflict, the kidnappings, the armed guerrilla groups. Ecuador is more like the parents’ favorite child who can’t do anything wrong. After making it through the danger zones of Mexico and Colombia over the last few months during the biggest drug war in Mexico’s history, we were relieved to have a breather and finally feel safe in the rolling green hills of Ecuador’s highlands.
We spent most of our first whole day enjoying the sprawling market that takes over nearly all downtown of the rural, northern city of Otavalo. We stuffed ourselves with traditional corn and pork dishes and bought hand-made sweatshirts to warm our torsos, now cold in the thin mountain air.
We only had a few days in the area and the receptionist at our hostel recommended we hike up to the large lake that bordered the town’s rural neighbor, lying just on the other side of one of the many surrounding hills. Two cold beers were stuffed into our bag with which to enjoy the darkening pink of the afternoon sun and we started up the two-lane road to the next village.
The hike took us up a steep muddy path through the woods and up to another highway that led down into the next valley. We set foot onto the road just as we crested the hill, a few adobe houses on either side of us and the mountain-encircled lake rippling below in the distance. It was beautiful, but our view from the top of the hill was even better. So we sat for a while on the side of the highway and stared mesmerized by the deepness of the green of the hills, their smooth yet jagged peaks, the bristling white snow of higher mountains in the distance. After a few minutes we were joined by another traveler, an Australian studying in Medellin, and swapped stories about our journeys between sips of beer as the sun painted the clouds on the horizon with thick hues of red and orange and pink.
When a fog started rolling in over the valley, so thick that it completely enveloped a neighboring house on another hillside, we decided we should probably head back to town. Bags packed and beers emptied, we started back down the road. We hadn’t even walked the length of a football field when we passed from fields into a patch of thin, towering evergreen trees on both sides of the road. Our eyes were drawn to the woods on the left of the road where two men hurdled bushes through the thick fog, their heads cloaked in black ski masks, their arms outstretched in our direction. At first, I didn’t understand. I thought it just might have been a coincidence that they were emerging from the woods at the same time that we happened to be passing through it. The ski masks didn’t even seem to register in my mind. They weren’t important. But yet we stood still and watched as they bounded toward us, their eyes focused and glaring into ours. When they reached us, climbed over the last bush and onto the road, I finally realized what was happening. I had to wait until a long-silver barrel was pointed in my face to understand that we were being robbed.
They came right up to us, grabbing us by our clothing, and lead us into the darkening patch of trees on the opposite side of the road. The one in charge never took his finger off the trigger, the barrel of the revolver focused intently on our heads. They lead us well into the thick trees—far enough that we could no longer see the road, and anyone who happened to pass by couldn’t see us. They forced us to sit down, “keep quiet,” they said, “or someone will hear.” One of them put a finger gently to his lips while the other hand kept the gun pointed at my face.
The next five to ten minutes pass in my memory like a blur, but one in which I can remember nearly everything: their persistent demands for us to keep quiet and sit down, their hushed tones, my girlfriend’s helpless sobbing, the dark, hollow center of their eyes that shown only a shade lighter than the black mask that engulfed them.
Then, after they’d gotten what they came for—all of our money, iPods, cameras—they motioned for us to head back to the road, waving at it with the tip of their pistols. They didn’t even run away; just shuffled their feet slowly out of the forest in the opposite direction, looking down into their bags and calculating the worth of their earnings.
‘Luckily, none of you were hurt. That’s all that really matters.’ We’ve heard this sung back to us every time we’ve recalled the story to our friends, family, and fellow travelers. That they may have taken all of our stuff, but at least we’re okay. But for the first few months after it happened, any physical pain they could have inflicted upon me seemed dwarfed by the psychological consequences of their actions. Sure, we got away and no one got hurt. But what if physical damage wasn’t the worst thing they could have done to me?
The passing days and nights of the months that followed were all plagued by a similar story. I’d find myself floating out of the bus seat, the dinner table, or the pages of my book and into a scenario in which I was protecting myself and Gabby from harm by beating a ski-masked assailant over the head with a crow bar or caving his face in with a shovel. I always snapped out of these daydreams to find my jaw clenched and my knuckles stretched tight over the sharp bones in my fist, wondering, ‘how did I end up there?’ I’m not a violent person, and the daydreams scared me—not only in their vivid realness, but also the way in which a part of me seemed to enjoy them, to need them.
But the dreams weren’t even the worst of it. The biggest collateral damage, at least as far as I was concerned, was the lasting impression the robbing had on me and the new manner through which I viewed the world and the people around me. No more unwavering trust, no more benefit of the doubt.
During my four years at college I took classes that constantly pushed the boundaries of my own world view and my understanding of how we relate to one another—how to challenge the status quo. Ever since then I’ve made a daily effort to challenge the prejudices and trivial skin-deep differences between us that I had been spoon-fed since elementary school.
Now all of that seemed to have been turned on its head. I was back to square one. I could no longer look at everyone with the same, blanketing level of trust or confidence in their character. Where I previously didn’t make superficial judgments, or at least tried my best not to, I was now doing exactly the opposite. Every time I saw a dark-skinned male walking toward me in the street that failed to return my passing smile, or gave me a strange look, they automatically registered as a threat.
In short, what some may view as no more than a stick-up had a lasting impression on me because it challenged everything that I believed in—my own ability to look beyond color in the face of a single trying incident, much less the ability of the rest of the nation.
What was happening to me? I felt myself slipping into a mindset similar to that of the same bigots and closed-minded people I’d tried so hard to change—whose views I’d so despised.
The reason I chose this story was not because of the adventurous or exciting nature of our armed robbery but rather because of how it made me feel. It ripped me squarely off of my (self-designated) pedestal as a color-indifferent “progressive,” and set me back down with the masses—the millions of other Americans who are still prejudice, who sometimes still feel fear because of color alone.